Since diving into the wedding blog community last summer, I've noticed a huge topic of debate is "Should I change my name after I get married?" Hmmm....good question.
I'm sure you've all thought about it at some point in your life. I know when I was little I always said I'd change my name as long as it was something more interesting than my current last name. (Don't get me wrong, I love that I share a last name with my wonderful family, but having a last name that is in the top 50 most popular in the world out of hundreds of thousands of last names, I wouldn't be opposed to having something a bit more unique.)
So what do I do, I agree to marry someone with just as boring a last name. Haha, figures! But that's really not a great reason to take or not take someone's last name.
Let's break it down with reasons For and Against:
Tradition states that the woman shall take her husbands name after marriage. It's just what people always did, no question.
Against: It's the 21st Century, hello!
Tradition, smadition. Women are much more independent now then they used to be. Many want to keep their birth name as a way of saying, I'm my own individual self!
For: One Team, One Dream!
Some women choose to take their husbands name because they want to be one team. Teams have one name, not two. This usually also helps in the "what last name do they get" debate when you have children.
Against: We Are Family
Some women want to maintain strong ties with their family in a more physical way. Sharing a last name can allow them to do so.
Against: I'm Just Lazy
Some women are just lazy. They don't want to have to deal with changing their names on everything, including credit cards, social security cards, car insurance, bank accounts, etc.
Against: I'm a Career Lady Now
Some women, like my mom, use their name in their place of business. In her case, her name is her business.
For: It's a Commitment
Not only do you need to be one team, but it's a commitment. It's a way of saying I'm an totally and whole-heartedly committed to you and this marriage.
Against: It's Ugly!
Haha....I'm going back to my childhood again, but what if the name is just ugly or doesn't work right with your first name. For instance if my first name ended with a "k" sound (i.e. Mike) and I took my fiance's last name and the two names were said together it would sound like a dirty word. Umm, no thanks!
I could compromise and do the hyphen but I'm just not the hyphen type of girl. Even though there are many reasons not to change my name, I am totally for it. I love what it symbolizes and I want to be one team. That's not to say I can't still be an individual, but my first name says that. I don't need my last name to do that too.
So now I get to look forward to all those forms I will have to fill out once we're married. Great fun!
Are you ladies changing your names? What made you decide?